Should parents have a say about whom their children marry? Should parental approval be a requirement for children under certain ages? Should parental permission ever be a requirement? Should arranged marriages (allowing parents to pick whom their children will marry) ever be allowed? Why is involving parents in the marital selections of their kids a good or bad idea? How would you react to your parents' expressed desires to choose your future husband or wife?
Answer these questions in a well-written paragraph of at least five sentences. Then, respond (in at least one complete sentence) to the posts of at least two of your classmates.
i think that parents shouldnt have a say in marrige because it is your choice who you would want to marry. plus it is not there life but your own and if you want to marry that person you should know first if he or she is using you until they get married to you. Your parents shoulndnt interferre unless they know that the person is just using you and you dont know about it.
ReplyDeleteWhat if the person WAS using you, yet you had no clue of this, loved that person dearly, and denied the fact when your parents would try to convince you that you're making a grave mistake?
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ReplyDeleteI would HATE it if my parent tried to pick who I married. First of all my dad would want a white male who likes western movies, not my kind of guy. I think it is a good thing for my parents to like the guy I marry. However if they thried to pick the person that I married, I wouldn't be sticking around for the wedding. I think that the person that sould have the most say in a marriage is the people getting married! After all they are going to be the ones living with eachother for the rest of their lives. The job of parents is to prepare us for the world and that includes who we marry. They should teach us when we are young to know who is a good person and who is not.
Amanda, you make a very good arguement. I agree with some parts, as the parents should not choose who you marry, but I also want to say that their opinion could be a good idea.
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ReplyDeleteI don't think parents should have a say in whom their children marry. Parental approval should be required for children under 18 like it is now. Parental permission should only be required if the child is still a minor and isn't legally imansipated. Arranged marriages should never be allowed. It's not right for a persons parents to choose their child's spouse. It's a bad idea to involve parents in the marital selections it will just cause more problems. I would be very mad if my parents told me they were picking my husband. It's not their life they have to spend with him, have kids with him, and grow old with him. I want to marry someone I love regardless of their finnacial situation or their family history.
I don't even think people CAN get married when they're under 18.
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ReplyDeleteI do not believe parents should have a say in thier childrens marriges. I also believe that if the child is underage that parental approval is needed. I don't think that arranged marrigages should be allowed. Having parents involved is a bad idea cause they are just greety insucure people who use their children to do what they couldn't accomplish. If my mom ever tried to pick the person I married I would freak out on her and go live elsewhere
*~Taylor Stevens~*
ReplyDeleteI feel that parents should not have a say in whom their children marry. If a person wants to get married under the age of 18, then their parents need to give consent. I feel arranged marriages shouldn't be allowed because you could marry your child to someone completely wrong for them and make your child very unhappy with their life. Parents shouldn't be involved in the marital selection of their kids because they have to decide who they love and want to spend the rest of their life with on their own. If my parents told me they were going to choose who I'm going to marry, I would be very angry with them because it's a decision of love and they can't tell me who I love.
Clair-I don't think parents should have a say in who their kid marries. Parents don't really know what type of person their child likes. Yes parent approval should be a requirement for marrying under a certain age. 18 would be a good age for this because the person is technically an adult. No arranged marriges should not be allowed, that would make anyone mad. If my parents arranged my marriage I would be very upset with them.
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ReplyDeleteI say that parents should kind of have their say in who your going to marry. I think this because parents should approve of who were gonna marry cause they don't want us to make a bad decision that will be there for the rest of our lives. Parental permission is really not required because we should be able to make our own decisions. Honestly, if my parents don't think some girl isn't the one for me, then I'll keep their advice in mind. They want the best for me so they should be able to just say something that's on their mind or that concerns them. But the decision is all up to me.
I personally don't think that parents should have a say in who you marry. Obviously, marriage is a big decision, and I think someone should be able to make that choice on their own. Parental permission should never be a requirement, for many people are estranged from their parents, and others do not have accepting parents. For me, an arranged marriage would be an extremely bad idea. Because parents and children have different tastes and opinions on things, an arranged marriage can result in someone spending the rest of their life with someone they are completely unhappy with. Though I would like an opinion on the person I marry, I couldn't imagine my parents choosing that person. When it comes to the topic of marriage, one should have control over their own choice.
ReplyDeleteIf the parent has an opinion about the marriage, then they should express it, but they should not have omnipotent say as to who a person should marry. There is a certain law that provides freedom of choice. If the wrong choice is made, the consequences will be there. However, a parent cannot simply choose a husband or wife because they don't want those consequences to occur. There should be an age limit of some kind, as parents do have that, but once that is passed, it is not their choice. I would simply tell my parents my argument, and I would stand firm.
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ReplyDeleteI do not feel parents should have a say in who you marry.You should be able to be with anyone you want without them stopping you.If the relationship with the person that they choose ends wrong then it does but no one should be unable to be with who they want to be with.Some believe that they have to have or want a parents permission to marry someone but I believe the it is up to the people in the relationship.
Arianna,
ReplyDeleteI think that parents can give their opinions about whom their children marry, but I don't think they should be able to manipulate it. I think that if there is a person wanting to get married at a younger age like younger than eighteen, the child you have parent permission and maybe a certain form of approval. I know in some religions that arranged marriages are a tradition and I think that is okay, but it also depends on the family that is thinking about arranged marriages. Well, if a parent doesn't like their child's potential spouse, there could be manipulation and other problems with the marriage and relationship between the parents and spouse. If my mom wanted to choose the person that I would marry, I would know that she would choose a respectful and smart person, but we have different taste. I want to choose the person that I might spend a majority of my life with.
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ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, parents should have some say in marriage. However, I am against arranged marriage. Being married to someone should be because together, there is mutual happiness. Marriage should not be like a job or chore but, should be something two people can share happily. Arranged marriage would obviously please the parents but, not the ones involved in the actual marriage. If I were to get married and be happy, arranged marriage would not be the way to do that. If I wanted to marry a stripper from a ran down Atlanta strip club that works the midnight shift and dances for them dollas, I should be able to do that. If my parents wanted to arrange my marriage, I'd probably run away to Missori. In conclusion,
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ReplyDeleteWhen I think about this concept, I immediately think it's both wrong and right. Parents have more knowledge then their children do when it comes down to a big decision like marriage. Also, some parents may make a smart decision, while others would have them marry someone to benefit themselves, it all comes down to the person, which then persuades me to say that parents should have no say in who their children marry. At early ages, teens should definately have their parents consent whether they should go through with it and get married, or wait and go with an older, wiser brain.
Unless society gets royaly deranged from what it is now, parents should never have the power to pick their childrens sposes'. This idea of parents choosing who will take their children's hand in marriage is wrong because nearly every instance this happen, one or the other spose will not agree with who they are getting married to. I would not want my parents consent on who I marry when I get older in any situation.
Some parents would do that! that would not be good at all!
Deleterussell
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, perents should not tell their kids who to and not to marry. you can't determine who you like by what your perents decide on the guy/girl. Sure, you want your perents opinion, but you don't have to nessacrily fallow their every wish. Sometimes you have to go your own way without someone to tell you what to do. If your perents don't like a certain carachater or person, you don't say " hey, comb your hair, it looks messy". I believe that you shoould be in control of your own life.
I agree with you to a point. The fact that you say the parents should not tell you who to marry is a very good point, but maybe also take into suggestion their wishes. It may work out for the better anyways.
DeleteAlandra-I think parents should have some say in who their children marry, but not to the point where it's an arranged marriage. Parent approval shouldn't be required though. I don't think arranged marriage shouldn't be allowed, because families should have the choice to do whatever they want to do. Having parents select their kid's spouse is good in some cases because sometimes parents know what's best for their kids, but it's also bad because they could be terrible parents and make their life miserable. I would let my parents have a say in who I want to marry, but I wouldn't let them arrange it. Arranged marriage is bot bad and good, but I don''t think it should be required.
ReplyDeleteI think that parents defintly should never have a say in their childs marriage. If a child is under age for marriage i dont think that they should have to get the parents approval. I believe this because it is the childs choice and how the child wants to live. They are the ones who have to live with this person and not them. Another thing is that if the parents choice the man/women they wouldn't need their approval then. So i don't think that a parents approval should ever be a requirment just because basically it's not their lifes. I don't beleive that arranged marriages should ever be allowed becasue again its just simply not their lifes, they are having a say to something they dont havr to live with. It could even let to your child become unhappy, angry towards them. It's a bad idea because they could choice the worst person in the world. The spouse may be abbuseive, mean, complete oppisite of them, and many more. Or even a major issue if the child is attracted to the same sex as they are, and they marry them off to the oppisite sex everything will just fall apart. If my parents tried to tell me who to marry i would just simply ignore them. It would probably even want me to marry them more. Or if they try to marry me off with someone else I would say no and refease and if things came to worse i would probably just leave. In conclution, I believe that parents shouldn't have a say in marriage for their children, because all it will lead to most likely is disaster.
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ReplyDeleteI think parents deserve a small amount in the say of whom their children choose to marry considering they raised them. Yet, there shouldn't be a requirment to have parental permission because, parents can't feel what their children feel for someone. On the idea of arranged marriages I think that they shouldn't be allowed. It's not really right for parents to control their childs love life.Also , once you start involving parents they start wanting their kids to marry someone with money or land.Personally if my parents decided to get involved in my marriage i would be very dissapointed in the respect my parents had for me. Also I would probably just not speak to them for a really long time until they earned my respect back.
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ReplyDeleteI think parents should have a say in whom their children marry under certain circumstances. If the child is under 18, then yes, But if they are over the age of 18, than no. Arranged marriages should never be allowed. People should be able to pick who their suppose to spend the rest of their life with. If my parents tried to pick my husband, I would move to Australia. (:
I agree with that age limit. I would probably move to australia too!
DeleteI don't think that parents should have a say in their child's marriage. You should choose who you want to marry and not your parents. Children that still need parental say in who they're getting married to, shouldn't be getting married. I think your parents should agree with who you marry, and want you to, but not to an extent where they tell you what to do. I don't think arranged marriages should ever be allowed. A marriage should be about love between you and the other person, and not who other people force you to love. If my dad decided for me who I want to marry, I would get angry, and not listen to him. At all. In conclusion, I think parents having anything to do with their children's marriages is a bad thing, and it shouldn't be allowed.
ReplyDeleteI think that parents should have some say in there childrens marriages because maybe they have good advice to give them about the choices they are making.I dont think that the parents should choose for them because its there desicion on who they marry.I think that parental approval should be a requirement because it would be good to have a parent tell there children they are to young to even know what they want.I absolutly disagree with arranged marriages because parents shouldnt pick who there children marry, let them pick for themselves! It;s there dissision not their parents.Involving parents in marital selections of their kids can be a good and bad idea. Its a good idea because they are your parents and should have some say in your marriage and should be able to really get to know the person that your getting married to.Its a bad idea kind of because they can get to controlive and possibly mess up your marriage.I would not let my parents choose who i marry beause i would like to choose for myself.
ReplyDeleteAngela... I think parents should not have a say in marrige. Yeah they have good advise that the kids should listen to but the choice should be in the kids control. If it turns out that they should not have gotten married then there is a lesson learned. I think by the time they are ready to get married they are old enough and are ready to make their own grownup dicisions.
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ReplyDeleteI believe that parents can have a say on whom their children marry but not enough so the parents make an arrangement. Under certain laws in certain places, parents can pick their children's spouse if the child is underage. I think it's good that people let their parents be part of the marital situation but again, not enough to let the parents decide who they're marrying. If my parents decided who I was going to marry, I would be infuriated. If I was going to be tied up for the rest of my life, it'd be with someone who I really know and love- not someone handpicked from a random place. I would like to choose for myself who I'm going to marry. I would hate an arranged marriage.
Jonathan Schroeder.6
ReplyDeleteI thinks parents should not have total power over their kids marriage. They are not in control of the childrens emotions. They can not force them to love someone. When someone says they love someone so much that they want to marry them, You should trust them. I do think that the parents should approve of their childs spouse. When I get married, I am going to make sure that I have her dads approval. Parents are very wise, So they can give good advice.
Maddie Aka {Billy Mc Cormack}
ReplyDeleteI think parents should not have a say in marrige. I think so because what happens if the guy is ugly or like really tall or really short? You wouldnt be happy. I want to marry a hansome person and the one I want not the one my parents want. Also, your parents might hate you and pick someone you HATE!!! Honestly I think you should have a say in who you marry not your parents or anyone else. :) Thank you :)
Ty,
ReplyDeleteI don't think that parents should have a say in their child's marriage. You should choose who you want to marry and not your parents. Parental approval should be required for children under 18 like it is now. Parental permission should only be required if the child is still a minor and isn't legally imansipated. I know in some religions that arranged marriages are a tradition and I think that is okay, but in any other cases it's absolutely ridiculous. A marriage should be about love between you and the other person, and not who other people force you to love. It's a bad idea to involve parents in the marital selections it will just cause more problems. I would be very mad if my parents told me they were picking my husband. It's not their life they have to spend with him, have kids with him, and grow old with him. I want to marry someone I love unconditionally. Not because I have to. I would be severly unhappy and I would make my oarents pay for it!
Parents should not have a say in who you marry. If a person is a minor, then yes, parental permission should be required for the childs safety. Otherwise, I do not believe that parents should be required to give permission to marry. Arranged marriages should be allowed because in certain cultures it is tradition. Also, the parents may want to keep some friends close to the family, and what better way then to have your child marry their children? Involving parents in the maritial selections of the kids is a good idea because if the parents see something bad in the person that their child is blind to, they can bring that trait out to the light. I would react to my parents' expressed desires to choose my future wife by taking their opinions into account. I would do this because I know my parents always want what is best for me, and taking their opinion into account could be a good idea.
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I personally think that parents shouldn't have a say in whom their children marry. Yes, I think that parental approval should be allowed for children that are at a certain age. Parental permission doesn't always have to be a requirement. I don't think that arranged marriages should never be allowed. People wouldn't want to marry someone they don't like. They could be with someone who could have absolute hate for someone else. Parents getting involved with marital selections is a bad idea because then there can be conflict with the family itself. I wouldn't approve of my parents desires of picking who I marry. I would be beyond mad if that happened.
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ReplyDeleteI disagree with parents to choose whom you are to marry. Marrage is all about loving one another, not to be forced together. Also, parents should approve, because they probably know the people who are going to be successful, and who aren't. But, people shouldn't even be getting married when they are still a teenager, they don't understand what love fully is yet. Even though arranged marriages are a ritual in some religions, I disagree with it, by far!
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I believe that the parents should have a say in whom the child marries because that person will become part of the family. I do not think that people should get married at young ages because they are not yet experience at life. I believe it is not requiered to have the parents permission, but proper to ask the parents first. Arranged marriages should not be allowed! I think that the parents should not choose because they truely do not know who you would like to marry. I would go crazy on my parents if they arranges a marriage and I would not let them push me around like that.
Jenna - I do think that parents should have a say in whom their child marries. Parents just want the best for their kids. However, I think that the parents should have an important reason if they are telling their children that they can't marry the person they are in love with. Parents should have to give permission if their children are young. The parents should not have to give permission if their child is an adult. I would not let my parents choose who I marry. I want the descion to marry who I want and who I am in love with. But, I would want my family to like the guy I want to marry. That is how I feel about involving parents in marrige descions.
ReplyDeleteI already know this for a fact: if parents were to have a say in who their kids marry, it would erupt into Jerry Springer territory. Also, even though the thought of parents having to give their child permission to marry someone until a certain age seems taboo, it wouldn't be that bad of an idea, seeing how there would be a lot of people in their late teens/early twenties getting divorced soon after their marriage because it didn't work out. After taking a REALLY close look at the teenage society, it would probably be a good idea for parents to give their say in their kids marriage, but it all depends on their I.Q. However, arranged marriages are never a good idea. The only way I can see that parental involvement in the marital selections is a good idea is if their kid is an idiot and the person they're marrying is a scumbag. Although, I would be pretty ticked if my parents thought it would be a good idea to pick out my wife. (inb4 tl;dr)
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I think parents should never have a say in a persons marriage, I think they should marry who they love. It would be terrible for a gay couple if one f the parents did not agree with his sexuality. People should marry because they love each other and only because they love each other.
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ReplyDeleteIf they marry at a certain age ,like at 15 they should have parental consent.Parental approval should be a requirement so that the two getting married are ready. Arrange marriages should never be allowed because they usally never workout. Involving martial selectioins for kids is a bad idea because it isn't fair that the kid dosn't pick he or her marries. If my dad picked who I would marry, I would just leave home and never come back.
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ReplyDeleteI believe that parents should have some say on who thier children marry because they may have good advice about marriage. I think that parental approval should be required up to a certain extent; the parent or parents should approve unless it is very bad. I do not believe that arranged marriages should be allowed. People should be able to choose who they marry. Involving parents in marital selections is a bad idea because they don't know what thier kids think and feel.
Jordan Klipka
ReplyDeleteYes, I do think that parents should have a say in whome their kids choose to marry. But I don't think they should control who they marry. They may not like the people or they might but they shouldn't force their kids or make them marry a certain person. No, parental approval shouldn't be a requirement for children under ages. No, it shouldn't ever be a requirement. Arranged marrigaes should never be allowed, people should be able to choose who they want to marry. Involving parents in the martial selections of their kids is a bad idea because the kids don't want to be with someone for the rest of their life whom they don't like. I would be un happy if my parents expressed the desire to choose whom my husband would be because I wouldn't like anyone my parents choose for me to marry.
Parents should not pick the person to marry with of their children. Parents shouldn't be allowed to be involved with the marriage of their children because the decition they make is for life long and a bad decition can ruin someone's life. Parents can't know if their choice will be benefitial for their kids or not because they don't know how well they treat each other that is why parents cannot be enrolled on marital decitions. Even though parents shouldn't be involved in marrital decitions they can give advice of who to choose. In conclution parents are not supposed to be involved in marital decitions
ReplyDeleteI don't think that arranged marriages are "right" unless the people actually getting married agree with the arangement. I think that people should definitely have the right to choose who the marry and arranged marriages violate that right. The only acception would be if your beleifs or culture require you marriage to be arranged. Although arranged marriage is normal to many cultures, it should not be an international norm.
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ReplyDeleteI personally think that parents shouldn't have a say about whom their children marry. When you git married you have to live with the person you are marrying for the rest of your life, and it would be nice to be with someone you truly love not someone you don't really know but your parents like. Parental approval should not be a requirement for children under certain ages because it is not necessarily your parents business to do that. Parental permission should be a requirement because your parents need to know things like that so they know where you are and how you are doing. Arranged marriages should be aloud for people there past ancestors had the tradition for, and not for others. Involving parents in the marital selections of their kids a bad idea because those marriages are not true love. I react to my parents' expressed desires to choose your future husband or wife by flipping out refusing and getting my own wife.
Kitty~
ReplyDeleteI think parent's should let their children choose their own suitors. Parent's sometimes marry off their children for social status, political status, or money; basically, the parents sell their child to another family for their own benefits. For the parent's to voice their input or suggestions for their child's marriage is fine, but I don't think the parents should be able to control your future and sell you off to another family. If my parents tried to put me in an arranged marriage, I would refuse. Parents should let their children choose their own fiance.